The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others

Feelings are different. We know how to feel and to behave, but we don’t know exactly how to express it. That’s why it is important the way one treat himself sets the standard for others. Respect is a word, which you don’t use and don’t hear every day. But you know that you have right to be respected as a personality. And if you treat yourself with respect the others will treat you with that same respect. If you have low esteem, you shouldn’t expect others to think highly of you. You can become an even more excellent person by constantly setting higher and higher standard for yourself and then by doing everything possible to live up to those standards. Remember, the way you treat yourself, makes treat you the same way. Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. Plant your own flowers decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.

что-то наподобие:

(Как вы относитесь к себе, так к вам будут относиться другие.)

Если дословный перевод, то:

(То, как вы относитесь к себе, ставит стандарты для других.)

2 вариант лексически неправилен, так что используйте первый, он более подходит по смыслу.